As human, we know that we are all different. We have different way to talk, to do something, even to express our love. Therefore it's important to know our own love languages and also people around us. So that we can express our love rightly on the target. These are my love languages based on the test I did last week. My comments are in purple.
Quality Time (10)
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.
Yep this is my first love language. I enjoy quality time, with my mom, dog, best friends, and of course later my spouse and children. I find it difficult to trust that someone loves me but that person is easily distracted. I believe that when two people love each other, they can really sit together and do nothing but still feel connected.
Physical Touch (8)
A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
I love hug, with people I love and I feel close. I love to hug mommy tightly to show that I love her so much, and also my dog. I love to kiss his forehead, or squeeze him tightly with all my heart. I hug my girls and my younger sisters in campus to show that I am very happy to see them.
Words of Affirmation (7)
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
Yes, sometimes we really need verbal recognition of how people love us. Would love to hear "I love you" everyday from my spouse, and won't hesitate to say that too! I really love when on my birthday my friends give me a card and write a long wish. Or because of distance, a very long text message, just like one of my best friend always does. Hehe. She also loves to get long wish so we always write a very very long wish with words that can brighten up our days. Also for Christmas card, I don't know why but it's really exciting to read a lot from our beloved.
Receiving Gifts (3)
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.
I love this too! It means that people think of me, and would love to share with me. Moreover, I really appreciate the effort when they think of what I like, what I need, what I want, and the effort to buy or make that gift. It means that they so love me that price doesn't matter to them. I feel that way too, I wouldn't mind the price if it's compared to my best friend's happy face. I also love the excitement when opening the gift, it's a like a surprise!
Acts of Service (2)
Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.
I feel loved too when people help me doing things. But why it's the last of the list, maybe because most of the time I don't realize that this is the act of love. I just think this is the act of kindness. Haha. Will pay attention more.
Next: Apology Language
What's yours? I would like to know! Don't hesitate to tag me the link.
Discover yours here: 5 Love Languages