WAITING FOR A PERFECT MAN? :D

Waiting . . .

waiting . . .

waiting . . .

Waiting for someone to come in

Waiting for someone to hold me

Waiting for someone to feed me

Waiting for someone to change my diaper

Waiting . . .

Waiting to scrawl, to walk, waiting to talk

Waiting to be cuddled

Waiting for someone to take me outside

Waiting for someone to play with me

Waiting for someone to take me outside

Waiting for someone to read to me, dress me, tie my shoes

Waiting for Mommy to brush my hair

Waiting for her to curl my hair

Waiting to wear my frilly dress

Waiting to be a pretty girl

Waiting to grow up

Waiting . . .

Waiting for my breasts to develop

Waiting to wear a bra

Waiting to menstruate

Waiting to read forbidden books

Waiting to stop being clumsy

Waiting to have a good figure

Waiting for my first date

Waiting to have a boyfriend

Waiting to go to a party, to be asked to dance, to dance close

Waiting to be beautiful

Waiting for the secret

Waiting for life to begin

Waiting…

Waiting to be somebody

Waiting to wear makeup

Waiting for my pimples to go away

Waiting to wear lipstick, to wear high heels and stockings

Waiting to get dressed up, to shave my legs

Waiting to be pretty

Waiting . . .

Waiting for him to notice me, to call me

Waiting for him to ask me out

Waiting for him to pay attention to me

Waiting for him to fall in love with me

Waiting for him to kiss me, touch me, touch my breasts

Waiting for him to pass my house

Waiting for him to tell me I’m beautiful

Waiting for him to ask me to go steady

Waiting to neck, to make out, waiting to go all the way

Waiting to smoke, to drink, to stay out late

Waiting to be a woman

Waiting . . .

Waiting for my great love

Waiting for the perfect man

Waiting for Mr. Right 

Waiting . . .

Waiting to get married

Waiting for my wedding day

Waiting for my wedding night

Waiting for sex

Waiting for him to make the first move

Waiting for him to excite me

Waiting for him to give me pleasure

Waiting for him to give me an orgasm Waiting . . .

Waiting for him to come home, to fill my time…

Waiting . . .

Waiting for my baby to come

Waiting for my belly to swell

Waiting for my breasts to fill with milk

Waiting to feel my baby move

Waiting for my legs to stop swelling

Waiting for the first contractions

Waiting for the contractions to end

Waiting for the head to emerge

Waiting for the first scream, the afterbirth

Waiting to hold my baby

Waiting for my baby to suck my milk

Waiting for my baby to stop crying

Waiting for my baby to sleep through the night

Waiting for my breasts to dry up

Waiting to get my figure back, for the stretch marks to go away

Waiting for some time to myself

Waiting to be beautiful again

Waiting for my child to go to school

Waiting for life to begin again

Waiting . . .

Waiting for my children to come home from school

Waiting for them to grow up, to leave home

Waiting to be myself

Waiting for excitement

Waiting for him to tell me something interesting, to ask me how I feel…

Waiting for him to stop being crabby, reach for my hand, kiss me good morning

Waiting for fulfillment

Waiting for the children to marry

Waiting for something to happen Waiting . . .

Waiting to lose weight

Waiting for the first gray hair

Waiting for menopause

Waiting to grow wise

Waiting . . .

Waiting for my body to break down, to get ugly

Waiting for my flesh to sag

Waiting for my breasts to shrivel up

Waiting for a visit from my children, for letters

Waiting for my friends to die

Waiting for my husband to die

Waiting . . .

Waiting to get sick

Waiting for things to get better

Waiting for winter to end

Waiting for the mirror to tell me that I’m old

Waiting for a good bowel movement

Waiting for the pain to go away

Waiting for the struggle to end

Waiting for release

Waiting for morning

Waiting for the end of the day

Waiting for sleep

Waiting…

A Poem by Faith Wilding

Heheheheh I find it quite funny when reading this poem. I can hardly say it’s wrong nor right, but we can’t deny it, seriously, yet it seems like facts.  I even think I will use this poem as my paper topic for Literary Criticism Subject, tee-hee..

I bold three sentences that really catch my eyes..

Talking about the perfect guy, I can stare at this picture for soooo long time..

You know, it's like talking to us, "Just wait till you become a skeleton and you still won't ever found him." Even for that dog :p

Yeah that's true, we can't find someone perfect, MOREOVER, A MAN, hahaha.. As if finding the kind one hasn't been difficult yet, how are we supposed to find the perfect one? It's a dream beyond the dream~

Just like a status in Facebook my friend ever showed me:

An ideal guy is.. 

not smoking,

not drinking,

not lying,

not gambling,

not cheating,

and not EXIST! :p

So every single woman in this world knows it very well, I supposed, that we shouldn't wait for a perfect man. Yet how many of us still dreaming about a handsome-tall-rich-kind-gentle-man to be our spouse? I can't deny it can be the effects for watching Korean dramas too much, haha.. 

And of course we can't blame on girls who are affected because it has been girls' natural desires and needs, to be protected and to be treated well just like the main-male-characters on Korean dramas. They always do sweet things and girls can't resist that. As my godmother said, girls' heart is like a spoonful of margarine, heat them with the warmth of love and it will melt, tee-hee~ ❀

But we have to realize that we are not that perfect to deserve someone perfect, we even are not that good to deserve someone good, but I think it's kinda God's grace to give us spouse who are too good, even when we don't deserve him, but God knows how he-who-becomes-the-right-one manage with us. Completing our imperfections, decreasing our weaknesses, and over floating our good-sides. :p So if he is created to mend our missing parts, then why we don't ask for the imperfect ones as well, so we will have something to give them. So that we can mend their 'hole' too and we just simply complete each other. It sounds good anyway, imperfect + imperfect = perfect couple. :D

Then even if we have agreed that we shouldn't wait for the perfect ones, it doesn't mean that the right ones don't exist. Still has to be said, the right decision of course is to wait for the right man. RIGHT shouldn't mean  that he has Lee Min Ho's face, Huang Xiao Ming's body (even if I adore him a lot wakakaka), Prince William's status, Robert Pattinson's popularity, nor Justin Bieber's wealth. Why am I choosing celebrity to compare by the way? :p I mean, they shouldn't be just the same as our imagination about THE RIGHT ONE. However, does it mean that we can choose as we wish, when we think he's match with us, we like him, he likes us, then it's allright? Does it run that simple? 

*O c'mon, don't try to make it complicated.*

But how if the topic about choosing our spouse is really a complicated one? How if actually, what so called like, love, care, kind,  well-settled, are not enough?

*ALRIGHT,  you just talked about meeting imperfection perfectly and now you are talking about NOT ENOUGH thing, actually what on earth are you talking about?*

What I try to say here is, in my point of view, what we see, what we think we feel, maybe haven't been enough yet for a serious long-term relationship with a man. Maybe he's kind, he's adorable, he can make us happy, make us feel secure, but here is the one thing we need to be sure of:

How is his relationship with God?

People change, yes indeed, so do men. They can be SUPER-GREAT while chasing us, ULTRA-GREAT after becoming together with us, and turn into AWFULLY-BAD while they are bored, or mad or upset, or many other things. If this happens only in the usual relationship, YES it hurts, but we still find the way out, just end it, so does the problem solved. But how if this happens in a marriage? Can we stop it, end it, and say good-bye each other, yeah right we didn't make it this time, maybe I'll try with other people? Will you?

That's why, us, women, can't depend only on what's seen through eyes. We need to ask God, is him really the right one for us, FROM GOD? Not right only in our eyes, in our heart, in our family's eyes, in our friends' eyes, but in God's eyes, is he really the one? Does he manage an intimate relationship with God? If not, then how could he lead us to do so? 

These sentences from my godmother I won't ever forget said, "When you look for a husband, see whether he has LOVE and FEAR of the Lord? Because if he doesn't, then no matter how kind he is, it's useless. Human's kindness is temporary, it depends on the situation, it's limited, but once he has love and fear of God, then God will supply him with endless heavenly kindness. Maybe your husband can't buy you a diamond or jewels, but he will be the best DIAMOND OF YOUR HEART~ wkwkkw.. I LOVE THIS ADVICE ANYWAY~ ★

So, women out there, we will find the right ones, just surrender to Him and always consult with Him for every choice and decision we make. :D

Take a look at this, you will love it: A Message from God

HAVE AN ABUNDANT LOVELY NIGHT ^^